Thursday, December 20, 2012

Merry Christmas Gift of The 15th Star (A Lisa Grace History-Mystery)


Hi and Merry Christmas!

Free ebook (2nd edition) The 15th Star (A Lisa Grace History Mystery)
The second edition is averaging five stars (first edition was 3.7 stars) 
Now through Sunday, December 23rd.The 15th Star (A Lisa Grace History-Mystery)

A recent review: "This is one of the most fun stories I've read in a long time. I could not put it down and read it all in one day. I loved how the author mixed present day with the past. The author did not fill the book with a lot of ridiculous, boring details, unlike so many other authors. The level of details was perfect. I felt she had a perfect mixture of everything one could want in a good book, ie: Drama, Mystery, Action, History, Humor and Romance."

Set during the War of 1812: 
In the fall of 1809 Grace Wisher, a young slave girl, escapes the plantation to live her life in the port city of Baltimore, Maryland. She is indentured to Mary Pickersgill who teaches her the skill of sewing flags and standards. Yet Grace is hiding a terrible secret, one men will murder for even hundreds of years later.

In the present, Keiko Zorben is finishing her master's degree by working as an intern at the Smithsonian Institute. While archiving mislabeled letters, she finds a clue to the whereabouts of the missing star from the Star Spangled Banner. For over two hundred years its location has been a real-life mystery, until now.

Keiko asks the handsome Dr. Julian Lone Wolf, the head of the American Indian Studies Department, to join her on her search for the missing star.

When a docent is murdered and an attempt is made on their lives, Keiko and Julian realize finding the missing star and the secret it holds, is their only key to survival.

"The 15th Star" has been compared by first readers as a mix of "National Treasure" meets "1776".

Wednesday, December 19, 2012

Issue 99 – The Paranormal “Man” of the Year is…


By Kirby Robinson


For us to award this honor a person must do something that sets them apart from everyone else in the paranormal field. Their actions must cause the average person in the paranormal to stop and say, What a Guy or Gal!

Unfortunately, this year’s winner actions did not add anything to anyone’s life, change the world, or bring anything new to the old paranormal table. This person’s actions showed the ego is alive and well. This person’s action showed that even a moron can call themselves a paranormal investigator/demonologist. This person’s actions showed no signs of love and compassion that we so need right now after the outright slaughter of 28 human beings--20 of them young children.

There will be 20 sets of gifts that will go unopened this Christmas. 20 bikes that will go unridden, 20 dolls not played with, and 20 teddy bears that will go unheld.

A few hours after blood was shed and lives forever altered, one person wanted to go into the Sandy Hook Elementary School and do an investigation. That person is the winner of the Eye on the Paranormal’s “Man” of the Year award. His name is Kurt W. Kesler.

On Friday, as the nation was shedding tears over the loss, it seems that the paranormal fame train whistle was blowing loudly as Kurt posted on Facebook a desire to go ghost hunting in the state of Connecticut. Common sense was shown as people became outraged that such an action was even being tossed around. Kurt removed the thread and thought it would fade away. Someone posted that since it’s no longer there you have no proof it ever happened. Well, we say thanks for screen shots and thank you Worst Paranormal for sharing it.

Here’s a link to the thread. Scroll down the page for the entire multi page thread:


Now it would have been bad enough if this is the place the story ends but it does not

Just like Chip Coffey, Mr. Kesler wants to exploit Ground Zero to further his career. He has tried repeatedly to conduct a ghost hunt on it, as he desires to release a DVD of it for profit. Did he intend to share money earned from it go to the families? In Mr. Coffey’s case, he went to Ground Zero with a client and a reporter in tow to contact the lost loved one. Since then he’s never failed to mention this tasteless action in his media information kit.

The final insult comes from the fact that the school board who oversees the schools in Newtown, CT started to reactive requests form a ghost hunter who claimed to be a paranormal investigator/demonologist wanting to have access as soon as possible to conduct an investigation in Sandy Hook.

As much as we’d like to lay all the blame on our winner’s doorstep, we can’t. On Bishop Long’s Facebook page, he asked if there was any place off limits when it comes to doing an investigation? Most people who responded thought it was okay as ghost hunters had a right to investigate any haunted site at any time.

 A few years ago, SCIFAKE caught a para-celeb selling tickets to ghost hunts at public cemeteries without the owner’s permission. During visiting hours, visitors who were paying respect to lost loved ones saw ghost hunters walking across graves talking loudly. The promoter even gave the finger to those at the cemetery.

Additionally, Mr. Kesler has a book out about demonology. If you’re a demonologist you have to have a book. This isn’t a bad idea. At least the reader, if they have any basic knowledge of the subject, can kind of determine the amount of knowledge the author has about the subject. In the case of Mr. Kesler’s book, Demonology 101, within the first few pages he shows no wisdom on the subject, as he knows nothing of Christian theology or where demons come from.

So we can only hope that Mr. Kesler keeps up the good work as the poster boy for what is bad paranormal behavior.


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Tuesday, December 18, 2012

Medical Advice from the Dalai Lama's Doctor


By Jen Christensen, CNN
updated 11:06 AM EST, Wed December 5, 2012

Atlanta (CNN) -- A young girl bravely stood to ask the Dalai Lama's doctor a question, and he gave her an unusual answer.

Dr. Tsewang Tamdin, a world-renowned expert in Tibetan medicine, visited Emory University in Atlanta on Monday as part of his effort to reach more American medical practitioners. He wants to develop collaborative projects between the Tibetan medicine system, which is more than 2,500 years old, and Western medicine.

The little girl told Tamdin she suffered from asthma. She wanted to know if there was anything in Tibetan medicine that could help her get better.

Tamdin, who spoke through a translator for the hour long lecture, immediately switched to English. In a gentle, almost too-soft tone, he explained what might help.

Inhalers doctors prescribe for asthmatics works well, he said, and told her to continue using one if she does already. The inhaler, though, treats the symptoms only. Tibetan medical practice, he explained, ultimately aims to get to the root cause of the problem.

"While others might consider the holistic practice of Tibetan medicine 'alternative medicine' or a kind of side practice, I would like for others outside of our system to consider the Tibetan healing system full-fledged healing," Tamdin said. "Tibetan medical knowledge has tremendous potential to add to modern medicine."

Dr. Tsewang Tamdin
Tibetan practice teaches that people get sick when a person's physical, psychological and spiritual well-being are out of balance.

To restore balance, Tamdin recommended diet and exercise changes for the girl. He encouraged her to get proper rest and to get exercise that encouraged deep breathing, such as skipping or cycling.

He also suggested eating three or four white raisins a day. There is a property in the fruit that helps breathing, he said. But perhaps the biggest sacrifice for a child was his advice to avoid cold foods -- particularly, he said, ice cream.

Another patient who came to him with asthma symptoms would get a completely different diagnosis, Tamdin said. Each patient's disease is treated differently from the next. That's in large part because traditional Tibetan medicine is grounded in Buddhist philosophy. In his training to become a physician, Tamdin also studied Buddhist tradition and astrology.

American and Tibetan doctors have some practices in common. If Tamdin were to have a longer consultation with the girl, he said he would perform familiar diagnostic tests. He would examine her urine sample and take her pulse, but he also would ask questions that would be the more familiar terrain of a psychologist. He tries to find out if a person is angry or anxious or if someone is becoming too self-centered.

The Dalai Lama
"Tibetans believe in our interconnectedness," said Geshe Lobsang Negi, a former monk who is now director of the Emory-Tibet partnership. "When we lose that perspective -- that we are a kind of little speck that is infinitely connected with the rest of the world -- when we see ourselves as the solid, fixed, all-important center of the universe, we call that ignorance, and that means we are vulnerable to illness."

This whole person approach to Tibetan medicine is being analyzed by a number of research studies in the United States. An NIH-funded study is examining the impact that compassion meditation can have on alleviating depression.

Compassion meditation is a Tibetan Buddhist mind training that asks a person to examine why they feel a certain way about someone and then to develop feelings of love and empathy for a number of people that will grow with more practice to include even people they normally dislike.

Studies have shown the medical effectiveness of meditation overall. A 2003 study of mindfulness-based meditation showed enhanced antibody production after someone receives a flu vaccine. Another study from that same year found cancer patients who were trained in mindfulness-based stress reduction showed a boost in their immune system.

And a study this year from Carnegie Mellon University showed mindfulness-based meditation has a far-reaching influence on both psychological and physical health. Mindfulness means being present and in the moment, and observing in a nonjudgmental way.

Negi's 2008 study of compassion meditation showed a reduction in stress-induced immune and behavioral responses. Several other studies under way are looking at the impact of Tibetan treatments on certain viral illnesses and on hepatitis.

Tamdin believes ignorance is at the root cause of all illness.

"If you think about this, it makes sense," Negi said. "For instance, if you believe you are the center of the universe and someone has something you want, you may become jealous and believe you deserve what that person has."

"You may become so jealous," he added, "you don't sleep at night and you will be stressed. Medical tests have shown there is a biochemical change in your body created by a release of a stress hormone. In Tibetan medicine, it is important to recognize the role the mind can play on our own physical well-being."

Tamdin said that modern medicine treats symptoms, but said a patient will never get better if they fail to attend to psychological issues.

"If one does not gain this understanding of selflessness, they won't be able to overcome their ignorance," he said. "One way to look at it is to watch the bird and its shadow. It may fly and fly high into the sky, but it continues to leave a shadow on the surface of Earth. As long as you have ignorance within you -- even though you are enjoying good health -- there is always a shadow of sickness falling upon you. From this ignorance arises three mental poisons: attachment, hatred and delusion." All those will affect energy, he said.

In addition to actual medicine and dietary changes, a Tibetan doctor may also prescribe the patient practice more kindness and compassion toward others -- or that they practice more compassion meditation.

Western medicine is reluctant to accept the Tibetan medical idea that some unexplained illnesses may ultimately be caused by someone's karma or even by evil spirits. The language Tibetan doctors use to suggest that good health is based on the balance of bile, phlegm and wind may seem a little too foreign to modern medicine practitioners.

But the holistic approach to a patient's health -- treatments that involve diet, behavior, prescription of medicine and contemplative practices -- may continue to appeal to physicians after they see demonstrated proof that these kind of therapies work.

"The Tibetan tradition has evolved over 2,500 years," Negi said. "It has a rich tradition that has helped the health of people for many many years.

"His holiness the Dalai Lama was the first to say that these things we believe in should be subjected to scientific tools so we could better understand the human condition overall and help us to better deal with the situation of our own well-being."

Saturday, December 15, 2012

Christmas Giving


By Stephen Piersall 
Deliverance Ministry Central NY
"So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver" (2 Corinthians 9:7)

The countdown of Christmas shopping is dwindling down and the gift-swapping event will commence. The old saying “It’s better to give then receive” comes to mind especially during the holidays from Thanksgiving to New Year’s Eve. However, are we giving enough and to where it can make a difference?

The world celebrates the birth of Jesus, on December 25th and we call it Christmas. If you research this you will see that Christmas was originally a Pagan holiday, and looking at the calendar of today compared to the calendar back in the day, you will find out evidence that Jesus was born more so in our spring season, but the exact date cannot be identified. Now as they say, “You can’t fight City Hall”, and to try to change the world of beliefs and traditions of Christmas is a battle no one can win but should.

Therefore, the world will continue to go shopping and spending our money excessively this time of the year. So I ask and challenge you, if giving is better than receiving what are your commitments toward giving to the needy?

Have you stopped Tithing at your local church to be able to buy more gifts?

Are you just digging into your pockets for loose change instead of peeling off a few dollars to put in the red bucket outside of major retail stores?

Have you considered as you make your large family Christmas meal of donating to the local food banks?

Are you aware you can give your old cell phones to an organization that will ship them overseas to the military to use for the holiday season?

Storing old eyeglasses in a drawer or simply throwing them away is a waste in many ways. Give the gift of improved vision, and help a stranger see the world much more clearly, so they can read their Bible too.

Let me give you a partial list of charities that may appeal to you:

Animal Rescue
ASPCA
Local Churches
Make a Wish Foundation
Red Cross
Salvation Army
Soup Kitchen
St. Jude Children’s Hospital
Toys for Tots
Wounded Warrior Project
etc.

How are we to give?

God wants us to give according to our ability. Jesus told His followers, "give alms of such things as you have" (Luke 11:41). God never asks us to give more than we can. “Now Jesus sat opposite the treasury and saw how the people put money into the treasury. In addition, many who were rich put in much. Then one poor widow came and threw in two mites. So He called His disciples to Him and said to them, 'Assuredly, I say to you that this poor widow has put in more than all those who have given to the treasury; for they all put in out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty put in all that she had, her whole livelihood" (Mark 12:41-44). Planned giving should cover all options of family, friends, and charities. Is it really giving to the needy if we just offer what exists after spending on so many gifts for others?

Make this Christmas a special one; follow the path that Jesus laid out for us to follow. 

Friday, December 14, 2012

How Serious is the Belief in Trapped Spirits?


By Reverend Mark Hunnemann    

My interest in the theological issue of spiritism accelerated like a rocket when I realized the titanic With the American spiritual landscape littered with the rubbish of all manner of crazy ideas and beliefs, it has the dubious distinction of being the arch-heterodox belief of the day…that is my opinion and I am prepared to defend that sentiment.

The first argument is simple but profound: fifty percent of Americans now believe in trapped spirits. HALF—ONE OUT OF EVERY TWO!—OF THE POPULATION HAS EMBRACED THIS ERROR…HIGHER WITH THE YOUNGER CROWD…AND GROWING FAST EVERY DAY.  No need to drone on here, but what other specific belief error comes anywhere near that quantity of people? Number of people affected should certainly be considered when determining if an issue merits being called a crucial issue, should it not?  Spiritism is a crucial issue which must be passionately addressed because more people have embraced this erroneous belief than any other heterodox belief.

Certainly one can believe in ghosts and still be saved, because Scripture clearly teaches justification by faith alone (Rom. 4; 5:1) However, the ability to discern the relative importance of theological/spiritual beliefs is vital for effective Christian life and ministry. The relative importance of certain issues/beliefs can fall within four categories. 1. Absolutes define the core beliefs of the Christian faith…what one must believe to be saved (the belief in absolute truth is a distinct issue); 2. Convictions, while not core beliefs, usually have significant impact on the health and effectiveness of the church and individuals; 3. Opinions, are less clear issues and are usually not worthy of dividing over; 4. Questions are issues which are currently unsettled. These criteria, and the seven below, are designed to help sort through the myriad of issues we face by categorizing them into four distinct levels of seriousness…hope they will help you in the future with thinking through the significance of other issues as well.

Where an issue falls within these categories should be determined by weighing the cumulative force of at least seven considerations: 1. Biblical clarity; 2. Relevance to the character of God; 3. Relevance to the essence of the gospel; 4. Biblical frequency and significance (how often in Scripture it is taught and what weight Scripture places upon it); 5. Effect on other doctrines; 6. Consensus among Christians (past and present); 7. Effect on personal and church life…all the categories should be considered collectively in determining how important an issue is to the Christian faith. The ability to rightly discern the difference between core doctrines and legitimately disputable matters will keep the church from either compromising important truth or needlessly dividing over peripheral issues. (pg. 2502 ESV Study Bible, emp. added)

In a sense, the main goal of my book is to provide the cumulative evidence (mentioned above and other) to argue that the issue of trapped spirits lies within the realm of convictions—see above for distinctiveness of four categories of issues…#2. While a biblically accurate belief regarding spiritism is not a core/absolute issue (not necessary for salvation…belief in the deity of Christ is an example of a belief that is a core issue), it is an exceedingly important conviction or teaching of the bible. Belief in ghosts, and attempting communication with them, can do serious damage to the church and to an individual’s spirituality. I should hasten to add, it IS doing serious damage right now. Let us look at the relative importance the bible gives to this issue, and the ramifications for the spiritual and emotional health of people by looking at these seven points.

1. Biblical clarity—using accepted principles of hermeneutics, Deuteronomy 18:9-14 and Leviticus 20:6-8, 27 are they key texts relative to communication with the dead (this is a distinct issue which is beyond the scope of this newsletter, but I devoted an entire article on this), and they are clear and explicit regarding the exceptional wickedness of spiritism. God as Judge used Israel as executioner of the Canaanites due to the latter’s occult practices which included spiritism. The land had become so defiled by this and other occult practices that it was vomiting them out. As I mentioned, using sound interpretive principles, it is abundantly clear that these texts have priority over all other “ghost” related texts. Then, when we look at these texts, we see that they are transgenerational in their authority. As far as biblical clarity, these texts are as clear as clear can get. There should be no debate if you under Christ’s Lordship. Remember that Jesus Himself quoted from Deut. three times when countering Satan’s climactic temptations in the wilderness.

2. Relevance to the character of God—the notion of ghosts casts a shadow over God’s omnipotence, and goodness (actually ALL the attributes of God are frontally assaulted by this notion)…what kind of God would leave deceased babies here as spirit babies? That “God” would be Satan-like. Spritism implies that the Lord is not sovereign over His creation—a godlette or McGod. “They died so quickly their souls got stuck here.” Are we to believe that manner of death can snatch believers out of God’s hands? God forbid! I could go on and on here…

3. Relevance on the essence of the gospel—the perfection of the Person and work of Christ is seriously undermined and impugned if we believe that some people get trapped when they die. What are we saved from, if death is NOT a doorway to heaven?  A McSalvation at best. While it does not utterly ruin the atonement, as denial of the deity of Christ does, it comes perilously close to it. Was Jesus’s salvation perfectly efficacious or not? Is Jesus the Son of Man, the conquering Warrior over evil and death, or not? Is it good news to believe that God’s blood was shed, only to wake up in the front porch to hell?

4. Frequency and weight—while spiritism is not mentioned often in the bible, where it is mentioned, the utmost weight or gravity is placed upon this issue (see 1 above).

5. Effect on other doctrines—pull out a book on bible doctrine and you will see how EVERY doctrine is undermined by the notion of people getting trapped here. For example, the biblical doctrine of hope is hopelessly destroyed by this belief. Hope is certainty regarding our future glory—how can one enjoy this basic fruit of the atonement when the fearful prospect of possibly being trapped here is hanging over our heads? Hope is not only an important biblical doctrine, but it is also crucial for a healthy emotional state. Another example is the believers union with Christ—we are in Christ, and indissolubly united with the life, death, resurrection, and ascension of Jesus. We are already in heaven with Jesus, in a very real sense (Col.3:3). Our union with Jesus is unbreakable, and it is the hub from which all other spiritual blessings flow. What does it say about that union, if we can be separated from Christ indefinitely in a paranormal gutter-world…Satan’s home turf? The same corrosive effects occur to many other biblical doctrines. Please check it out for yourself….it may cast a whole new light on this discussion.

6. The consensus of Christians (past and present)—from the early church fathers who railed against the same pagan Gnosticism as we do today, up until today, the monolithic consensus of the doctors of the church has been that death ushers everyone immediately into their eternal destiny. I do not know of a single judicious theologian, in 2,000 years of church history, who has believed in ghosts—death has always been seen as certain entry into either eternal life or eternal death. Are we so foolish to ignore their collective wisdom?

7. Effect on personal and church life—how can you live with joy inexpressible when you are speaking to demons, and are being demonically oppressed?  Because the spirit realm is the God ordained temporary home of most of the fallen angels (rest already in hell), then when people summon spirits they immediately find themselves playing in Satan’s sandbox…and they are trespassing, which gives the demonic legal right to attach and attack. Since the notion of ghosts is so hostile to all that we call holy, then belief/speaking to the dead seriously undermines the stability of a Christian’s spiritual foundation—like a three legged table, it would not take much a “bump” to cause them to crash. As I mentioned, this belief is extremely corrosive to all it comes in contact with—other orthodox beliefs held side-by-side with it, will tend to be affected by it, and not vice versa. Kind of like when a Christian marries a non-Christian, the latter tends to pull the Christian down…having a corrosive effect on their spirituality.

Wednesday, December 12, 2012

Paranormal Headlines – December 12, 2012


By Kirby Robinson


Will post my regular blog tomorrow but wanted to give you a heads up on some exciting news from the wacky world of the paranormal.


The God Discussion Show

I’ll be featured on the God Discussion Show this Friday the 14th. The show is 3 hours long, so I won’t be on for the whole show. The hosts, Al and Deborah will spend the time talking about the paranormal and ghosts with people who have different views on the subject. Tune in and enjoy!
6 PM PST, 9 PM EST



If you think Ancient Aliens was real watch this film



These 6 videos are supposedly the most convincing on YouTube…what do you think?



Can spontaneous human combustion happen?



Aliens and the bible--do you buy it or not?



Doomsday Preppers Cult?



Our friends up north have the right idea!



Update for listeners of the Grand Dark Conspiracy Radio Show

Here is a great book that deals with the question of Jewish exorcism

It was out of print for a while.

The name of the book I was trying to think of is this: 


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Tuesday, December 11, 2012

The Dalai Lama on Happiness


He is one of the most peaceful and serene people in the world today with his own kind of Dalai Lama happiness, His Holiness the XIVth Dalai Lama, Tenzin Gyatso, is the spiritual and political leader of the Tibetan people.

Born to a peasant family, His Holiness was recognized at the age of two, in accordance with Tibetan tradition, as the reincarnation of his predecessor the 13th Dalai Lama. In 1950, at 16, His Holiness was called upon to assume full political power as Head of State and Government when Tibet was threatened by the might of China. In 1959 he was forced into exile in India after the Chinese military occupation of Tibet and has presided over the Tibetan Government-in-Exile since then. In 1989 His Holiness was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize because he has consistently has opposed the use of violence in his struggle for the liberation of Tibet. He has instead advocated peaceful solutions based upon tolerance and mutual respect in order to preserve the historical and cultural heritage of his people and has come forward with constructive and forward-looking proposals for the solution of international conflicts, human rights issues, and global environmental problems.

Dalai Lama Quotes on Happiness and Peace

The purpose of our life needs to be positive. We weren't born with the purpose of causing trouble, harming others. For our life to be of value, I think we must develop basic good human qualities- warmth, kindness, compassion. Then our life becomes more meaningful and more peaceful-- happier.
When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.

Although I personally believe that our human nature is fundamentally gentle and compassionate, I feel it is not enough that this is our underlying nature; we must also develop an appreciation and awareness of that fact.

Dalai Lama Quotes on Finding Happiness

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.

Consider the following. We humans are social beings. We come into the world as the result of others' actions. We survive here in dependence on others. Whether we like it or not, there is hardly a moment of our lives when we do not benefit from others' activities. For this reason it is hardly surprising that most of our happiness arises in the context of our relationships with others.

Happiness is determined more by the state of one's mind than by one's external conditions, circumstances or events--at least once one's basic survival needs are met.

Happiness can be achieved through the systematic training of our hearts and minds, through reshaping our attitudes and outlook.

As long as there is a lack of the inner discipline that brings calmness of mind, no matter what external facilities or conditions you have, they will never give you the feeling of joy and happiness that you are seeking. On the other hand, if you possess this inner quality, a calmness of mind, a degree of stability within, then even if you lack various external facilities that you would normally consider necessary for happiness, it is still possible to live a happy and joyful life.

Dalai Lama Quotes on Compassion and Happiness

If you wish to overcome that feeling of isolation and loneliness, I think your underlying attitude makes a tremendous difference. And approaching others with the thought of compassion in your mind is the best way to do this.

My basic belief is that you first need to understand the usefulness of compassion. That's the key factor. Once you realize the usefulness of compassion, you immediately develop an attraction towards it, a willingness to cultivate it.

Within all beings there is a seed of perfection. However, compassion is required to activate that seed which is in our hearts and minds.

Despite the fact that the process of relating to others might involve hardship, quarrels, and cursing, we have to maintain an attitude of friendship and warmth in order to lead a way of life in which there is enough interaction with people to enjoy a happy life.

Dalai Lama Quotes on Suffering and Happiness

The reason why reflection of suffering is so important is because there is a possibility of a way out. There is a possibility of freedom from suffering. According to Buddhist thought, the root causes of suffering are ignorance, craving and hatred. By generating insight into the true nature of reality and eliminating afflictive states of mind such as craving and hatred, one can achieve a completely purified state of mind, free from suffering.

We often add to our pain and suffering by being overly sensitive, over-reacting to minor things and sometimes taking things too personally.

I think to a large extent whether you suffer depends on how you respond to a given situation.

There may be a variety of ways that one might deal with the feeling that one's suffering is unfair. I've already spoken of the importance of accepting suffering as a natural fact of human existence.  In general, if we carefully examine any given situation in a very unbiased and honest way, we will realize that to a large extent we are also responsible to the unfolding of events.

Dalai Lama happiness is characterized by peace, compassion, and loving kindness, and still it is strong enough to stand firmly against hatred and intolerance.

Thanks to http://www.happylifeu.com/DalaiLamaHappiness.html for this inspiring article.