Issue 75 – The Getcha, Gotcha, Good of the Fake Para-Unity Movement

By Kirby Robinson

The above video will be added to every Wednesday blog from now on, because it's a message and a warning that we all can learn from. If we don't, then the paranormal realm will end up being a bigger circus of frauds, fakes, deceivers and soul stealers than it already is.

If you listen and watch the video, 90% of the false teachers it exposes and warns about were around back in the 1970s and 80s. That was when they started to teach their doctrine of little gods, and success being the only way of entering heaven. They taught that you give and expect to receive. And the counterfeit Jesus doctrines that have filled the church today that the Mormon cult [yes it's a cult, just older and more established] is now accepted as mainstream Christianity.

Why did this happen? Because so few spoke up back then and tried to stop it. Those that did were attacked and torn apart and called a fringe element. They were accused of trying to cause division within the church and the brotherhood of Christ. They were cut out of almost all the televangelism networks.

The same thing is happening today with in the paranormal field. If you point out bad teachings [or outright false teachings], if you expose the fakes, if you warn people that the paranormal entertainment industry is destroying the field, then you're labeled as bad news. You have the Bible thrown in your face "Judge not!" [While they judge you]. They try to stop your voice from being heard. Paranormal radio networks won't allow the shows on their networks to feature you. If a show does put you on, they receive hate mail. Then there are warnings of a guest boycott in the future. If you go public about going to a convention, emails are sent warning that you'll be arrested or you're not welcome! What are they hiding? What is it they don't want you to know?

Last week someone asked what are you going to be talking about on Sacred Division this week? Without thinking, I said I wasn't going to be on anymore, that as we spoke someone was working to have me removed from the show.

Unlike fake psychics, who charge exorbitant fees for personal readings or sucker you into some horse and pony show minus the horse and pony, they're full of crap. Unlike the many fake demonologists who claim to walk and talk with God, the only thing they walk and talk with are lies and deceptions. [Some are even in league with what they claim to cast out]. I do practice the spiritual gifts; I do embrace the Great Commission to preach the good word, to heal the sick, cast out demons and raise the dead [still waiting on that one]. This isn't done by my own powers, for I have none, but only via the grace and powers from GOD that can flow from anyone as long as they believe.

Last Friday night that vision came true and it was interesting when it did, as I was in the middle of an attack from demonic forces relating to a case I'm working on. [Unlike many of the fakers who only get as close to a real case as that paranormal fiction book will get them]. Someone found the time to dig through every single one of the 250+ blogs posted on EYE ON THE PARANORMAL and found something by a former guest blogger [special contributor] that cast Bishop Long in a negative light. [I still feel he's the real deal and have respect for him and his group and have no issues with him or them]. But they knew what his reaction would be.

So I'm a victim of the Getcha, Gotcha Good of the Fake Para-Unity Movement. But they can't win. They can laugh and sound witty in the emails they fire around to each other. [Don't think we don't see them and that we don't know who you are]. They can laugh about the fact that I'm no longer on the radio--ha ha.

THE EYE ON THE PARANORMAL is bigger and better and we're about to become even bolder. Our readership is up, our support is at its highest, [private emails are sent as many fear and know about those para-unity idiots attacking them if they speak up for us]. We publish 7 days a week now and are about to add even more bloggers—and more videos.

The more hate that's sent our way only tells us one thing: we're doing our job. We have no irons in the paranormal fire. We belong to no group, nor do we seek membership to some organization with matching t-shirts/outfits. We're the last voice in the paranormal that reports the truth. We don't give lip service to what those paranormal fakers who support that para-unity movement want you to know, think, and most of all--what to spend your money on. And when they get your allegiance, you money, what else will the para-unity movement want from you? Your soul.

I know Christ wouldn't remain silent, and am pretty sure Paul would have stood up to the paranormal thugs. And so will I.

Answering Karla's Comment

Karla said...

Is Eye on the Paranormal a blog about religion, faith and spirituality? Or a blog that lashes out at others whose beliefs and practices are different. That's what the Westboro Baptist Church does and it's disgusting, sick, ugly and evil. It's wrong and the greatest sin of all. Kirby, you are better than that.

Karla,

THE EYE ON THE PARANORMAL is a blog about the truth and sometimes the truth hurts. It often gets people worked up and often what one thinks is the truth is actually the forces of darkness masquerading as the truth.

We publish 7 days a week, and our bloggers come from different spiritual paths. They are allowed to write about any paranormal or religious topic they choose. We have Buddhists, Christians, atheists [and in the next few weeks, we'll be adding more paranormal writers as special contributors].

It's not lashing out or attacking when one encounters errors of others who are teaching or preaching a position that if others follow, may lead them off the path or lead them into a bad situation or cause them to believe in things which aren't the truth.

It's interesting to note that you seek to make a tie between me and the Westboro Baptist church, which is a lightning rod for most to automatically generate anger/hate towards anyone associated with such a hate group.

Your last sentence concerning the greatest sin is even in error. The greatest sin is that sin known as blasphemy of the Holy Spirit.

Next Wednesday – Should convicted sexual predators be active within the paranormal field? A special report you don't want to miss!

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His Holiness Meets the Austrian Chancellor, Attends a Science Symposium & the European Rally for Tibet

Vienna, Austria, 26 May 2012 - The sun shone and a small crowd of well-wishers smiled warmly as His Holiness arrived opposite St Stephen's Cathedral to be met by Cardinal Christoph Schönborn, the Archbishop of Vienna. They were almost immediately joined by the Austrian Chancellor, Werner Faymann and the three went into a meeting together.

Standing at a balcony window nearby, Cardinal Schönborn took the opportunity to explain some of the restoration work that has been taking place at St Stephen's, the most important religious building in Vienna, before the bells rang out calling him back to the cathedral. His Holiness and the Chancellor continued to discuss matters of mutual concern.

Next, His Holiness drove to the University of Vienna to attend a symposium on Buddhism and Science: Mind & Matter – New Models of Reality, where he was welcomed by the Rector of the University, Heinz Engl.

Describing it as a great honour for him to participate in the discussions, His Holiness noted that towards the end of the last century, scientists had begun to take a serious interest in the workings of our minds and emotions. He said he had been fascinated by how things work since he was a child and learned a great deal about how electricity functions from investigating the movie projector and generator that had belonged to the 13th Dalai Lama. About 40 years ago he began to learn about cosmology, neuropsychology and quantum physics and for nearly 30 years has been conducting regular dialogues with scientists. The purpose of these dialogues is, firstly, to extend human knowledge, not only in the material field, but also the inner space of our minds, and, secondly, through exploring such phenomena as a calm mind, to promote human happiness.

With Mr Gert Scobel moderating, Prof Dr Anton Zeilinger, Prof Dr Klaus-Dieter Mathes, Dr Patrizia Giampieri-Deutsch made their presentations, which explored aspects of quantum physics, Madhyamaka philosophy and psychoanalysis. His Holiness hosted a lunch at his hotel for all the speakers that was also attended by Kalon Tripa, Dr Lobsang Sangay, social and human rights activist Bianca Jagger, former French Foreign Minister and co-founder of Médecins Sans Frontières, Bernard Kouchner and other friends who were in Vienna to attend the European Rally for Tibet. In the afternoon session of the Science symposium, Prof Dr Michael von Brück and Prof Dr Wolf Singer gave informative presentations on how the mind understands the structure of reality and the search for neuronal correlates of consciousness.

As the symposium came to an end, His Holiness expressed his appreciation, “Over the 30 or 40 years that I have been acquainted with scientists, I have noticed how many of them are acutely aware of the limitations of their knowledge. It is a good quality to recognise that our scope for learning is vast. They display an open-mindedness that is really admirable.”

A memorandum of co-operation was signed between Prof Geshe Ngawang Samten, Director and Vice Chancellor of the Central Institute of Higher Tibetan Studies in Sarnath, Varanasi, India and the Rector of Vienna University, Heinz Engl, providing for an exchange of students and scholars of the two institutions. Geshe Tenzin Dhargye, Director of the Tibet Center that has organized the various functions His Holiness has attended in Austria on this visit, offered his thanks to His Holiness and everyone who has participated.

In the warm, late afternoon, His Holiness drove to Vienna's Heldenplatz where 10,000 people had assembled for the European Solidarity Rally for Tibet. Addressing his dear brothers and sisters in the crowd, he told them how happy he was to be there and that he would like to first say a few words in Tibetan to the Tibetans present.

“Our culture is under threat of destruction, therefore I want to take this opportunity to speak my own language. Archaeological findings indicate that Tibetan history dates back 3-4000 years. We Tibetans must not forget our identity, for our blood, flesh and bones come from Tibet. Since the 7th century we have employed the Tibetan written language in which the most complete and thorough translations have been made of Buddhist knowledge from the original Sanskrit. This is a treasure for the world, not only for Tibetans. And when we talk about preserving Tibetan Buddhist culture, I don't mean just paying respects before a Buddhist image, but putting the teachings into practice and trying to live as good human beings.”

He talked about the urgent need to protect the Tibetan environment, which because it is the source of many of the rivers that run through Asia is of value not only to Tibetans but millions of others too. He expressed the fear that once environmental damage has taken place it will take a great deal of time to recover. Distinguishing Buddhist religion, which is the business of Buddhist practitioners, from Buddhist culture, which, as a culture of peace, honesty and compassion,is worth preserving for the good of the world. Meanwhile, millions of Chinese are already showing interest in Tibetan Buddhist culture. His Holiness stressed that the damage and destruction of Tibetan Buddhist culture that has taken place was not because Tibetans were not interested, but because of the difficult political circumstances in which they find themselves.

“Because of our Buddhist culture we are committed to the principle of non-violence. We are an example of a small community who have remained dedicated to pursuing our struggle through non-violent means, which is why your support is so extremely valuable and I want to tell you how much I appreciate it.

“Finally, I see how many of you are waving the Tibetan flag. Chinese hard-liners often refer to our flag as a symbol of splittist tendencies, but I want to tell you that when I was in China 1954-55, I met Chairman Mao Zedong and other leaders on several occasions. Once, Chairman Mao asked me, 'Do you have a flag?' I hesitantly answered, 'Yes,' and his reply was to say, 'Good, it is important that you keep this flag and fly it next to the red flag of China. So I feel I received permission then to fly this flag from Chairman Mao himself.”

Devil's Do-Gooders - A New Horror/Suspense Novel

By Lisa Maliga

Who is the stranger in this video?

Want to read more? Check out some excerpts here:

Devil's Do-Gooders Kindle version

Devil's Do-Gooders B&N Nook version

Devil's Do-Gooders Smashwords version

Paranormal Headline Monday – June 11, 2012

By Kirby Robinson

This TV Preacher thinks it's okay to strangle his daughter.

http://usnews.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2012/06/08/12126777-televangelist-creflo-dollar-arrested-in-alleged-choking-attack-on-daughter

Not only in the US, but apparently these zombie deaths are everywhere!

http://postnoon.com/2012/06/07/3-hannibal-lecters-arrested-in-brazil/52509

One more death inspired by the crazy new age teaching we just can't live without:

http://nymag.com/daily/intel/2012/06/bizarro-yoga-cult-death-in-the-desert.html

What you should really know about John Hagee. [In one of his books he teaches that Christ never said He was the Messiah thus there is a Messiah yet to come].

http://www.goddiscussion.com/97255/megachurch-pastor-john-hagee-wants-atheists-to-leave-america-and-congress-to-ban-witchcraft-and-satanism-from-military/

If he teaches that the world is about to end, then why should he pay his taxes?

http://www.wlwt.com/news/local-news/news-northern-kentucky/NKY-evangelist-s-trial-exposes-lavish-lifestyle/-/13608792/14586074/-/gg3h4j/-/index.html

Yet another fake psychic and her fleecing of a client for $200,000.

http://blogs.ocweekly.com/navelgazing/2012/06/lisa_debbie_adams_psychic_guil.php

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My Phone Reading with Psychic Medium Chip Coffey!!!

By Lorri
copyright 2009-2012

NOTE: This review of Chip's 30-minute phone reading was originally published online in 2009.

I had a reading with Chip I think he has some psychic ability. But I was not impressed with the reading I got. And he got me talking when I should not have told him anything.I think that real psychics do not and should not have to ask any questions. I could kick myself for answering him but I did. I am rather fried by a lot of what is going on in my life and I ended up being led into TELLING HIM things…! The worst thing you can do in a psychic reading.

I should have said nothing and told HIM to do the work.

I was ok when he asked what city and state I live in. But when I asked him about one of my kids who has health problems he actually asked ME what the problems were. And from there , because I am stressed, he got me talking. Enough to figure out there is family stress,health problems with a kid, and so on. In fact he offers nothing extra. You have to ask the questions and he pretty much clams up after giving a small amount of info, as if he’s not getting a run of information on anything and he’s only waiting to get clues from you {after seeing how much he can get you to talk}.

I was not told much that I did not already know, no details that really stood out. It felt more like a “cold reading” if you know what those are, although I’m not saying that was what he did. But there was NOTHING much said about the future, he told me what I already know except for when I asked about family members finding new jobs. I was given a time period {which is still in the future so I cannot say yet if that much is accurate}.I asked Chip if I would be moving out of state, and he actually gave me the stunning “news” that it was up to me. Wow… what a revelation. He should have said “I do see you moving” or “I do not see a move at all” or at least, “I’m not sure I can’t seem to tune into that”. But he tells me it’s up to me ?! That is not a prediction. I could have told myself it’s up to me. I wanted to know did he KNOW anything. Because for me it is uncertain, its not obvious and I am STILL not sure if I will be able to pull off a move out of state in the near future or any future !

And I paid $200.00 for 30 minutes of this,! {I am out of work and had to use a credit card, I just wanted some idea of the future so I put it on my credit card and I now regret that}.

Also, he wasted precious time {remember, this is only a 30 minute reading and you can bet most psychics would rather hang up on you than finish a sentence once that 30 minutes is almost up…}. Anyway, like I said, he wastes time. And I wonder is this on purpose ? Example,in the beginning he gave advice about the reading…the same advice his secretary gave when I made the appointment. Things like “write things down if they don’t make sense now,because they will later” and so on…things that are obvious,things that the secretary already told me, things he should just put on his website {in fact I have to re-check but I think he did already put instructions there}, he should do ANYTHING BUT start making a list of WHAT to expect AFTER the reading has already started and the clock is ticking. For God’s sake. 30 minutes goes by fast. Why should I pay to be told to make notes, again ??? And etc ?

That was not all. After the prayer {which is fine}, he somehow got on the topic of why he had to re-schedule my original appointment date {I had not even ASKED him about the reason why, he brings it up ON MY TIME , and $200.00 for a 30-minute reading…}, and goes into an explanation of how his dog has cancer and that was why he re-scheduled and etc. I was very sorry to hear that about his dog…but is Chip nuts or what ? He is chatting ON MY TIME, WHEN HE IS SUPPOSED TO BE GIVING ME A READING. I cut it short by telling him I understood { and I am an animal lover, I have pets, and I’ve lost pets when they passed away, in case I don’t sound very sensitive here}. Another thing he did to waste time , and I will warn you, if you get a reading with him you will have to CUT him OFF if you want him to stick to just predictions. Because he goes into “counselor mode” {he studied counseling and has a degree}, so you see that REALLY cuts into time that he SHOULD be using on as many predictions as he can make. Instead he will “Dr. Phil” you to pieces if you let him.

Did he do all these things that cut into my time during the reading so that he wouldn’t have to come up with as much “psychic” info ? Who knows. But I have to wonder.

Another thing that really blew my mind. I asked Chip if I will become a professional medium. I have DEFINITE mediumistic abilities. And to a degree I am psychic as well, like many people are. Several other psychic-mediums have all {separately} told me that I will become a professional medium. They also had no problem zeroing in on what I can do, { many things, but mainly it is hearing spirits or “clairaudience”}, but Chip only said he that I “really want to be” a medium, {???!!} Well since I did ask him about it I guess that gave him a big fat clue. I then had to ask him if the answer was either “yes” or “no” or in the middle ?! He said he thought I could do it but it would take work {I had to force that out of him, and it wasn’t so nice of him to just say ” you really want to be” and then leave it hanging until I asked him to pinpoint his answer a little more}.

He also said I was not very secure about it. NO CHIP, sorry, I was feeling a bit shy on the phone, that’s all. And my life is stressing me out, so I probably didn’t sound like a bulldozer ok ? I sometimes sound shy on the phone {I hate phones} with new people. So he interpreted that as if I am insecure about my abilities. I am not insecure about them. I have filled notebooks keeping track of all my experiences with spirit communication ! In fact, I thoroughly had expected him to say “yes you are a medium but it needs developing” or something to that effect {because I cannot ever tell when my experiences will happen, they are erratic, unlike a professional medium would be so I realize I do need practice}. And I thought maybe he could have given me an idea of when in the future I might turn professional. But that was it…no encouragement until I forced the issue and even then it was not that friendly. Why did he have no clue he was talking to a person with very similar abilities to his ?

When I told him that many other mediums all came up with the comment that I too would be a medium, and that I have experienced a lot of spirit contact he then firmed up his feeling that I could do it. Still, no real warmth or encouragement, and no stunning details.

One big reason why I asked him about all this was, although I had major spirit contact in my life for some years, it has in recent years decreased and is not as strong or dramatic as it once was. However, it was not so long ago that he couldn’t have picked up on it. Also, to some degree I am still experiencing these spiritual things.

Also, I would say he is not really polite enough. OK, I have a sense of humor and am not a “prude”, but he actually described my family’s rather dysfunctional, argument style {we are all a bit emotional and temperamental and tend to annoy each other if we interact too much, unfortunately but that is how it is}, well, he told me we are “always up each other’s *ss”. I realize Chip is actually often quite funny, in fact before this rather dull reading I felt affection for him when I saw him on TV. But you know, more respect and a little warmth in a reading would be a huge improvement for him. He can talk all he wants about “telling it like it is”, but that “style” can also be described as insensitive and will leave people with a sort of dirty feeling or even an insulted feeling instead of uplifted. There WAS a tradition in the best of Spiritualist circles to give positive readings…meaning, it really matters HOW you explain things to people. Do it with LOVE. Have some class and leave them with some dignity no matter WHAT their personal problems {because who is perfect ?}. If you give someone a negative, profane or even bland {or in this case, BOTH} reading it actually will NOT raise a good vibration {of course}. The reading won’t be inspiring or encouraging. Of course a good reading should address issues, but what is the excuse for profanity during what should be a spiritual reading ? None.

Want to hear something very ironic ? Mr. Profanity tells me in the reading I should study counseling {like he did !!!}, since “the things you tell people in readings have a big impact on their lives”. Obviously he’s oblivious to the fact he’s really not so great an influence, maybe needs to go back to school himself.

It’s not sappy or old-fashioned to be polite and realize that a reading is and SHOULD BE a good, uplifting encouraging SPIRITUAL experience. Unfortunately the focus goes off the clients and onto how you should just suck up to people like Chip, however bizarre or unprofessional they can be {people like Chip need to hold the people they do readings for in as much esteem as they hold themselves in}.

He also has complained {online I read this as a quote} about women wanting to know the state of their marriages or relationships with boyfriends. Chip sees this as silly or embarrassing or ridiculous. A waste of time. He is not a sympathetic person, and I don’t see him as good enough to counsel people if he has this cold, condescending attitude. Of course people want to know the state of their relationships. It’s a basic human need, to have a good relationship. Lumping people into one big pile and copping attitudes at them is just mean spirited. It’s THEIR READING they are paying for. It’s something that will help them out, so, what is the big deal ? He’s JUDGING them.

I regret spending the money on that reading with Chip. But at least if I ever trust another “professional psychic” again, I’ve been reminded on what to AVOID.

When is it TIME for Prayer?

By Stephen Piersall, Deliverance Ministry, Central NY.

6 a.m. and our 2 pugs are waking us up. Maybe I should pray before getting out of bed? Naw, I need to get up and take the dogs out. Wow, been out there for 15 minutes waiting for the pugs to do their duty. Heck, I guess I could have been praying outside with them but what would the neighbors think? Aw nothing like sitting in my rocker recliner and watching HLN news. Gee that was a fast 30 minutes, maybe tomorrow I can remember to take the TIME to pray about all the events that were broadcast about disasters, tragedies, etc. Well at least I got my oatmeal and morning meds all finished. Pray? I've got to check my Twitter, emails, and Face Book first. How did I just kill an hour of TIME doing all that? TIME sure flies by when you’re having fun. Let's watch some TV shows we recorded from last night. Yea that would be enjoyable and kill some TIME too.

Hmm what's for lunch TIME? Think I'll have a turkey sandwich today. Gulp! Maybe I should have taken the TIME and prayed before I ate it? TIME to take the dogs out for a long walk; we both need the exercise as well as they need to go potty. Well, that was a nice TIME strolling for 30 minutes, sure enjoyed the walk, and watched around the neighborhood to see what's going on. Pray? Wonder if I got any new emails, Tweets, and Face Book comments? TIME is 3:30 p.m. Yawn! Could take the TIME for a nap, but the pugs need to go potty again. That TIME it sure was fun, got to speak with a couple of neighbors, and their dogs played with ours, it was a grand ole TIME.

Supper TIME, sorry I don’t do dinner; I like to have TIME for supper like in the Bible. I’m a Christian you know, and like to take the TIME to follow the word of God. TIME to take the pugs out again, I’m sure I can think of some things I need to do for tomorrow while out with them, after all, I have all the TIME to do what I want.

TIME is 8:01 p. m. Phone rings! Don’t people know at this TIME we like to sit and watch TV until we fall asleep? It’s just a friend who had some free TIME and wanted to chat. Sigh! Finally, got them off the phone; just in the nick of TIME to catch the next program coming up. TIME is 10:30 p.m. Yawn! It’s TIME to take the pugs out for the last TIME tonight. All that TIME I was out there and our 1 year old pug took all the TIME just to go potty. I bet I was out there for at least 20 minutes of my TIME.   Boy was I ever aggravated! What a waste of TIME.

It’s TIME to take my night meds. I’ll take the TIME to check the computer before I go to bed. Yawn!  TIME is 11:30 p.m. Guess, I better get to bed and get some sleep TIME. Maybe tomorrow I can remember to find the TIME for some prayer? ZZZZZZZ!!!!


We hope this finds you blessed & highly favored in the Lord
Stephen, Karen, pugs Kobee & Kayla

The Supernatural & Satan's Speech Therapy

By Rev. Mark Hunnemann

If I were the devil (no comment) there is one small muscle in the human anatomy that I would work over-time trying to influence—the tongue.

“Possession and oppression are okay, but this is where we are inflicting maximum damage without being detected…and it all seems soooo mundane and natural. Without a hint of our diabolical presence, we are destroying: marriages, friendships, churches, and cultures; we have even caused these verminized humans to start wars with it. He he…on Sundays they praise the Enemy and on Monday they murder-mouth each other! And by muzzling their mouths, we can get the Enemy’s preachers to be silent about my most extreme deceptions. I know a few are bound to slip through the cracks, but you better not let them talk about my darling—ghosts… growl…And make them embarrassed to mention that NAME. Yes, human words are spreading the dust of darkness faster than anything else. Now, say after me: sticks and stones….”  (over heard at a daily Satan-led strategy meeting discussing his “speech therapy”)

What happened? Thirteen years after our divorce, I am still plagued by that question. After starting off so well, not a day goes by that I don’t grieve the destruction of my family—as a family. I ask this question here, because this is where the paranormal rubber meets the road of hard reality. I usually speak of supernatural type occurrences, but along with sin, there is a demonic ploy that seems to be a common denominator in all relational meltdowns. Keeping an eye on the paranormal is useless unless it can shed some light on the ever growing problem of marital distress—the most basic, God-ordained institution that is the cement of a culture. Satan is culture wise, and he knows that if he can get marriage in trouble, then that society will begin to unravel and self-destruct. Tragically, much of what occurs between many husbands and wives is the result of the influence of the demonic denizens of the paranormal realm. My intent is to educate and equip us to be discerning of Satan’s relational schemes and discuss practical insights in how to achieve beauty in our earthly relationships.

Though much is uncertain, and varies from one situation to the next, I am certain of the primary cause of why a marriage either flourishes or flounders. Communication…what we say, and how we say it, is by far, the chief determiner of marriage wellness. If a digital recorder were strapped to you, what communication patterns would it reveal? .Since self-examination is fast becoming a lost art, then self-awareness is at all-time low.….Couples can experience all manner of stressors (finances, in-laws, sex, and so on), but it is how they talk to each other in times of stress that will make them either bitter or better. Stress is, in a sense, neutral; whether it pulls people together or drives them apart, is largely dependent on how they communicate…what is said, and how it is said. If you walk into some folk’s houses you are immediately hit with a stench; like something died. The friction is palpable.. I remember with sadness what one of my children said at a young age, “Daddy, I like it when we have people over because the house is happy then.” What and how we say things will either create an ambience of security, warmth, and sweetness, or it will create a palpable sense of insecurity (walking on eggshells), chilled anxiety, and sourness.

One couple forecloses on a house, and they become even more devoted to each other. Another couple forecloses on a house, and they start sleeping in separate beds. The difference? One listens to the demonic temptation and the blame game begins, but the other resists the same temptation and encourages each other in the Lord. Statistics show that being a Christian (or professing so), sadly, makes no difference in how this couple handles the stress. Recently, a friend went through a cluster of serious setbacks (some might call them crises), and there is good reason to suspect demonic attack. Though smashed with initial anguish, they chose…CHOSE…to believe that God is good.. all the time. And they verbalized their contentment in the Lord. I was, and continue to be, amazed and blessed by their attitude and tongue control.

The power of life and death is in the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” (Prov. 18:21) How does one comment on a verse like that, except to urge each of us to really embrace and acknowledge the reality of the life and death nature of our words. In James 3:1-12) James laments that hardly anyone has good tongue control. In v. 6 he says that a word can set the whole course of our lives on fire, and that this tongue fire is itself lit by hell. We spread Satan’s kingdom when we sin with our mouths; he is known as the Accuser of the brethren. We should be very cautious before we open our mouths, but many let dribble out whatever comes to our minds. “Where there are many words, sin is unavoidable, but the one who controls his tongue is wise. (Prov. 10:19) Introvert or extrovert, it makes no difference—we are not to engage in diareha of the mouth. Also, you will look in vain for a text that minimizes mouth-sin due to how we feel. (some medical conditions can make obedience more difficult) We would not use feelings as an excuse for stabbing a person’s body, so why use it as an excuse for stabbing someone’s heart?. The power of life and death lies in what we say; we should control our tongues as if it were a 44 magnum handgun, with the safety off….VERY carefully.:

Listen to the words of Jesus, “For the mouth speaks from the overflow of the heart.” (Mat. 12:34) What we say is an accurate indicator of what is habitually happening in our thoughts. With Satan, the mind or heart is where the real battle is waged because the mind is the contact or entry point for the words of temptation, accusation, anxiety, and so on. Right then and there is where the battle is won or lost. Are you still wearing the digital recorder? I hope so because listen to what Jesus says next, “I tell you that on the day of judgment people will have to account for every careless word they speak. For by your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.”(Matt. 12:36-37) Believers will undergo a judgment, and much of the divine scrutiny will center on our communication. How you speak to your spouse or family will be the area of closest scrutiny. Before the eternal pleasures of heaven, there will be a real judgment…if that does not get our attention, I don’t know what will.

Most everyone is probably familiar with Eph. 4:27 where we are warned to not let the sun go down on our anger, or we will give the devil an opportunity or foothold. Paraphrased…”Hey, if you have had an argument with your spouse, make sure it is dealt with before you fall asleep. Because if you don’t, that gives the demonic a green light to graduate from mere temptation to demonic influence. The protection is lowered, a door is opened, and they are allowed to begin oppressing you.” It then becomes a vicious cycle, as the oppression increases so does the anger; harsh words flow and then the door is opened wider..and so on.. Friends, please make it a habit to not fall asleep angry. Christian couples are to help accelerate each other’s sanctification; .to be ministers of each others joy; to help them FEEL the security and significance we have in the Lord by what we say; to increase each other’s fruitfulness in extending the Lord’s kingdom; to enjoy each other and experience a piece of heaven here on earth. ”I am sorry, please forgive me.” and “I do forgive you” should come out of our mouths more frequently as we mature in Christ, because more spiritual nerves are exposed…we become more sensitive to motives and tone. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting, but it does mean not bringing the matter up again and holding it against the person. God cannot forget because He knows all things, but the beauty is that he does not hold our sins against us anymore.

One way to test your tongue control is to look at compliments versus criticisms, and the ratio between the two. Under criticism would come: constructive criticism, destructive criticism,, helpful hints, advice, suggestions, comments, and so on (you get the picture) When we mention criticism we usually are thinking about overtly destructive criticism, but any comments that “corrects” the other person has the potential to be destructive if:

it is said too often, spoken in an unloving tone, and is not balanced by a preponderance of overtly constructive compliments.. In this context, kindness is NOT correcting every mistake you see or hear; Jesus didn’t. "Love covers a multitude of sins." Let me hasten to add that some constructive criticism is necessary in a healthy relationship. My point is that we should compliment each other much more than we correct or criticize. This is where some of us will need to do some repenting, because the compliment versus criticism ratio is way out of whack. No wonder the “Song of Solomon” is so lovely; it is filled with compliments and no criticisms! If we did that one thing, our relationships would be a thing of real and observable beauty. Would the digital recorder show a preponderance of compliments or criticism? Let us offer up to God our mouths as a living sacrifice—it may keep trying to crawl of the altar but we put it right back.

Looking back now, I know that our house was infested, and we were under demonic oppression because of Satan’s speech therapy at work. My ex-wife cannot keep tenants in the house, because there is “something wrong with it.” I literally ran out the back door and fled…an utterly broken man. The Lord has been so kind and tender to such an unworthy sinner. Praise be to the Name—JESUS!